There’s actually a good dating trend out there and it’s called ‘hardballing’ – Yahoo News

It’s true that most recent dating terms — like pocketing or ghosting —are cause for concern. But fear not singletons because the latest trending word, “hardballing,” isn’t as bad as it sounds.

What is “hardballing”?

“Hardballing” is a term to explain when you tell someone all of your expectations upfront before you even go out on a first date. That way, you don’t waste your time and can weed out anyone who may not be as serious about a relationship as you are.

Susan Winter, bestselling author and relationship expert of “Breakup Triage: The Cure for Heartache,” describes it as a “no-compromise method of maintaining boundaries and romantic goals.”

Why is it good to “hardball” someone?

According to Winter, “hardballing” can be helpful to give the other person a “clear and definite vision” for your potential future together. It also tells you “exactly what you’re getting” when you choose to date someone.

“Imagine the years of your life you wouldn’t have wasted hoping that somebody would eventually learn to like you enough to be into a relationship with you or dating in the hopes that once they fall in love with you, then they might want to marry you,” Winter said. “And then once they marry you that they may want children. There are so many contingencies in place. I think it’s better to be very honest.”

How exactly do you “hardball” someone?

It’s always best to be as clear as possible. That way, there’s no room for misinterpretation.

“When the individual is clear about why they’re dating and what they want from a partner, it’s very important to be upfront about that. The problem that we have nowadays is vagueness. This is what’s creating ‘situationships’ and ‘friends with benefits,’ and people hanging on in the hopes that something more will develop,” Winter said.

What type of language should you use when you “hardball” someone?

While you don’t want to hurt your date’s feelings, “hardballing” is all about making sure they know exactly what you mean when you outline your plans for the future. A great way to do this is to use “clear cut, thoughtful, tactful and diplomatic language.”

It’s always best to be as clear as possible. That way, there’s no room for misinterpretation. (Westend61 / Getty Images)

Winter shared an example of a woman who may be concerned about her fertility timeline.

“I know that this may seem odd, but I need to tell you, I want to have a family and as a female, I have a timeline in which to do that so I don’t have the luxury to date a guy for fun,” she said as an example. “I’m not an anxious attacher. I’m not neurotic. I’m not insecure. I’m a woman who would like to have a natural biological family and I can only allow myself to enter …….


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Marijuana, dating apps, driver’s licenses: New Colorado laws go into effect Jan. 1 – Vail Daily

Jessica George tries to find help along the main street of Simla, Colorado, after her ATV broke down on Friday, Dec. 6, 2019. The state suspended George’s driver’s license over unpaid court debts, as it has done for thousands of other Coloradans.Hyoung Chang/The Denver Post

Among the roughly 500 bills Gov. Jared Polis signed into law in 2021, 14 go into effect on New Year’s Day.

They concern a wide range of people and topics, from marijuana purchasing to driving rights for the poor to legal recourse for victims of child sex abuse.

Here’s a look at some of the most impactful …….


Trope Tuesday: Fake Dating – The Young Folks

We have talked about the enemies-to-lovers, friends-to-lovers, and forbidden love tropes. This week, we will be discussing another one of our favorite young adult tropes: fake dating. 

Motivation behind the “fake date”

Funnily enough, characters in our favorite books rarely decide to participate in a fake relationship simply to experience a relationship with their paramour, despite the fact that it is a fake experience (until it’s not).


Characters almost always decide to fake-date each other for public image purposes. Whether it is characters getting fake-married for the sake of getting government aid for …….