Men’s dating coach shares common mistakes and advice to improve – Insider
- In 2022, men’s dating coach Blaine Anderson made just over $1 million from her online courses for single men.
- Anderson made the courses to teach men how to market themselves and connect with women.
- Single men often pick the wrong women for them and create unintentional profiles, Anderson said.
Dating coach Blaine Anderson’s Instagram comments are filled with men pushing back against her advice for finding matches, scoring dates, and meeting compatible partners.
For her, the comments are proof men have trouble asking for help, and a sign she’s serving the right market. In 2022, Anderson made just over $1 million through her three online programs dedicated to helping single men date.
“A large part of my job is convincing guys that it’s OK to want and seek help with dating,” Anderson told Insider. She also provides expert advice for Insider’s Dating App Clinic, where singles submit their online profiles for suggestions on how to improve them.
She said her courses center on the message that “there’s nothing wrong with wanting to improve your relationships with women. That’s actually a beautiful and healthy thing.”
Since launching Dating by Blaine at the start of 2020, Anderson says more than 1,500 men have taken her two dating classes, which range in price from $149 to $1,295. She designed the courses — one for texting, and one for marketing yourself in an authentic way — after doling out dating advice to single male friends in college and beyond, Anderson told Insider. She also offers one-on-one coaching, but said her downloadable courses remain her most sought after offerings.
After three years of professional advice-giving, Anderson said she’s noticed the mistakes single men tend to make over and over again. She said they often pick the wrong women for them, or misunderstand what single women want, causing them to market themselves poorly on apps.
Mindlessly filling in dating-app prompts
Dating app profiles are the most common ways singles get a first impression today. But a lot of these profiles lack the intentional mindset and originality needed to secure a compatible match, Anderson said.
She said that dating apps are filled with “fierce” competition. The best way to break through that is through specificity and authenticity, not saying your favorite food is pizza, or that you like to travel in your free time.
“Your goal is to communicate things like what makes you unique, what makes you fun to be around, and how anyone viewing your profile can tell if you’re compatible — basically, think about what story you want your profile to tell, and answer accordingly,” Anderson said.
Oversharing in the ‘about me’ section of their profiles
At the same time, men may also overshare on their profiles, Anderson said.
Some apps, like Hinge, have built-in optional prompts about drinking, drug …….