Hilary Silver is a clinical psychotherapist who operated a busy and successful private practice for 14 years. In 2017, she discovered coaching and decided to close her practice and launch an online coaching, wellness and empowerment company for women.
Hilary Silver now spends her time mentoring women which gives her the ability to witness their life changing transformations.
In this article, Hilary Silver reviews some of her latest thoughts on love and why she believes women should not be taking a break from dating.
Tell us about your “Ready for Love” group
The Ready for Love group is for high-achieving women who are ready to find the love of their lives. These women are ready to stop messing around, being single, dating, and not moving towards having a meaningful relationship.
I will be talking about navigating dating with confidence and certainty, and getting into relationships with men who are at your level so that you can be as confident and successful in your love life as you are in all the other areas of your life.
Why do so many successful women take “breaks” from dating?
Women take breaks from dating for a variety of reasons. Number one, it becomes exhausting. Dating is time-consuming and they get tired of checking their phone all the time, all the swiping, the managing, and the incoming messages. It becomes a distraction from your life.
When you hear a little ding on your phone, you’re like, “Ooh, who likes me?,” or you put your profile out and you’re constantly checking to see if you got any bites, and that is hugely distracting.
If you’re getting beyond that stage and you’re getting into these mini relationships that last anywhere from a month to three months, that can be exhausting too. You’ll start connecting with somebody, putting all this effort in, really sharing yourself and getting to know someone. Your small talk has turned into real conversation and maybe you’ve allowed yourself to feel something. You think there’s real potential there and then it fizzles or doesn’t work out and there’s more disappointment, heartache and let down. After that, many women say, “I just can’t do it, not one more time.”
Those are all good reasons to feel like you need to take a break and catch your breath.
You’re an advocate for women to continue dating even when they’re discouraged. Why is that?
The longer you sit on the sidelines, the harder it is to get back out there. There are good reasons to take a break, but what happens is you sink further and further into the self-doubt, the second-guessing, the “I don’t have what it takes” mentality. You lose your confidence, you lose your mojo, and you lose your sense of worthiness. You start thinking, “Maybe …….